I was chatting with someone recently who might have been my therapist. She’s helping me with some somatic experiencing not related to my marriage but it’s hard to think about your life without thinking about your spouse so I gave her the elevator pitch. Now it’s your turn. I summed-up my marriage as two distinct […]
Love and Marriage, Love and Marriage: 7-year cycles
Continuing down the list of suggested blog topics, marriage was a recurring suggestion in different forms: – Maintaining a healthy marriage despite the chaos – Grey divorces – That time you were thisclose to divorcing your spouse – Sex after marriage (as in sex in a long term committed relationship with children, not as in […]
Daily M.E.D.S. — Minimally Edited Daily Stuff
I retitled my daily blog to Daily MEDS because we’re military-adjacent and nothing says family like a good acronym. Also, I want readers to know that these daily posts are a discipline in leaving well-enough alone. I don’t need to learn how to write like Steinbeck, I need to learn how to ship. I mean… […]
Daily Blog: Change, Change, Change Part 4
You may be wondering why I titled my series “Change, change, change”. Everything comes to me with a song and this one was the melody to Aretha Franklin’s Chains of Fools. It just occurred to me that she’s singing “Chain, chain, chains” and that my series title made no sense to anyone but me. In […]
Daily Blog: Change, Change, Change Part 3
Do you sometimes think about the grown-ups who existed in the periphery of your childhood and wonder who they would be if you met them adult to adult? I often remember them through their children: the kid whose parents were on-again-off-again, the kid whose parents were in an open relationship, the black kid adopted into […]
Daily blog: Change, Change, Change Part 2
I started this blog post yesterday by sharing a condensed version of our move to and from the country. A friend asked me to write about change and it may be trite to say that change is the only constant in life but when we see how much energy people expand to fight or avoid […]
Daily Blog: Change, Change, Change, Part 1
I’m continuing down the list of suggested topics my friends sent me on Facebook. One friend asked me to write about change and another one didn’t know we had moved (thank you Facebook algorithm for being weird, I’ve been yapping about nothing else for 6 months it seems… or maybe she just muted me… who […]
Daily blog: Knitting and baking.
I put a Facebook request for a blog topic and within the requested 5 minutes I received two suggestions: knitting and baking. I not a good enough knitter to write something useful about knitting (like tips and tricks or maybe a made-from-scratch pattern?) but I can certainly share what I’ve been up to. As for […]
Daily Blog: What’s not on your resume?
I have been looking for work lately. We moved back to the city last May, my children are all in school and my husband is working from home. Sounds like as good a time as any to finally launch into a career. I’m 45 but I don’t feel it. Maybe that’s why not finding […]
My Netflix List: Beyond the Clouds
I just finished watching “Beyond the Clouds”, a 2017 Hindi movie marking Ishann Khatter’s debut role (also known as Shahid Kapoor’s half-baby-brother). I was intrigued by this movie after seeing Ishaan’s first major release, “Dhadak”. “Beyond the Clouds” is the gritty story of a young drug dealer who matures suddenly when his sister is unjustly […]